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    Home » Wellness + Travel » Health + Wellness Tips

    How the Woman I Despised More Than Anything Was the One Who Gave Me My Confidence Back

    May 12, 2016 by Chrissy Carroll 14 Comments

    I’m so excited to have my friend Stephanie here on the blog today with this guest post. 

    I love this post for a few reasons – it shows how some people come into our lives for reasons we may not expect; it shows how we shouldn’t let first impressions be the only impression; and it shows that when you put your mind towards accomplishing something, that determination and a little hard work can take you anywhere (including getting super fit and crossing a half marathon finish line).

    Take it away, Steph…


     

    If you told me I’d be able to run a half marathon ten years ago, I’d laugh at you.

    If you told me I’d do it with the woman my high school sweetheart left me for, I’d be in absolute disbelief.

    Both those things happened this month.

    Let me give you some background.

    I’m not a runner. No way. Running is every other sports’ discipline. In fact, the only reason I volunteered to be my freshman field hockey team’s goalie is because of the abundance of “no running” that came with the position. Oh, we don’t run and stand around? Sure, I’ll go in net.

    Fast forward to my high school graduation, where despite going to rival universities, my then-boyfriend and I would be all of three miles a part in Boston. But, like most high school relationships trying to make the college jump, we didn’t last.

    Heartbroken, devastated, and shocked, you can imagine the feelings I felt when I would see pictures pop up on the recently-invented Facebook of him with his new girlfriend. I can remember crying one year as they debuted their Global Guts Halloween costumes. I stared dumbfounded at the screen when I decoded their all-acronym messages. I hated her – hated her! – for taking him away from me. My insecurity skyrocketed as I wondered why I wasn’t good enough.

    A month after my college graduation my world was rocked: my mother was diagnosed with Stage 3 stomach cancer. Nine short months later, she would be gone. Many of my friends from high school, including the high school boyfriend, came to my mother’s wake and funeral to support me. My family and I received outpouring support in the form of cards – and one stood out to me.

    The girl that I spent hours hating on the Internet – the one I couldn’t fathom being a human as I had created this monster in my head – sent me a sympathy card. A card from her? It caught me off-guard. It was such a classy move. It was something I don’t know if I would do – and I’m a card person!

    At that moment, my perspective changed. The wicked witch I had in my head wasn’t a witch at all.

    That girl is Chrissy Carroll. That girl is the one whose blog I’m writing on.

    I connected with Chrissy shortly after receiving that card.  I invited her out to grab a drink together one night, and discovered we actually got along pretty well {photo below!}.  And the boy and Chrissy broke up after college, so any awkwardness was avoided on that front.

    Steph 2

    Over the years, Chrissy and I continued to stay in touch and build a friendship.  During the same timeline, Chrissy became a full-fledged triathlete. She was constantly emailing me to run 5ks and try new fitness routines. I had never met anyone with such tenacity.

    Most of my emails back consisted of “You’re crazy to think I could do that!” or “Maybe next year but I’m not in the best shape right now.”

    What about a duathlon? She would ask. “I don’t think I could remotely do that.”

    Are you up for this race? It’s nice and flat. I’m too nervous to try that right now.

    She finally got her first victory with me in 2013, when I agreed to sign up for a 5k on St. Patrick’s Day with her. I could barely run for 10 minutes so this 5k was more of a walk/run than anything else.

    When Chrissy told me she thought I could do it under 45 minutes, I laughed. We crossed this line after 42 minutes or so.

    St Paddy's 5K

    As she was launching her career with online classes, I begrudgingly signed up. I completed her Revolution Remix and fell in love with a green smoothie. In 2016, I completed two online Fitness classes with her, watching the videos as she demonstrated what we were supposed to do.

    During the planks, I will admit my hatred for her did come back. Ten more seconds? I hate you!

    Somehow, Chrissy’s tenacity paid off. After years of “You could TOTALLY do this, Steph!” and generously supplying me with confidence, I agreed to run the Earth Rock Half Marathon. I downloaded her training guide, bothered her with question upon question (Can I sub-out a 10k for a 9 mile run or no?) and got my ass to North Andover two weeks ago.

    And I did it. I ran the WHOLE thing – the entire enchilada – without walking in a time of 2:20:05.  {Chrissy’s note – is this not AMAZING?!}

    I can’t tell you how proud I am of that. Chrissy, who was also on the course, sent me a congratulatory text.

    Earth Rock Run Race

    Earth Rock Run Half Marathon

    There has been this constant presence of Chrissy’s belief in me for about eight years now. Eight years of “you can do this” and “you’ll surprise yourself” and “just try it – I know you got this!”

    It took eight years, but after finishing that race, I think her sentiments are finally sinking in.


    About Steph:  Stephanie is an author, social media and marketing specialist, and lover of all things Boston.  You can find her on Twitter and Instagram.


    Share with me:  Have you ever had an unlikely friendship develop?  Who has been a fitness inspiration to you?  What’s a fitness accomplishment that you achieved that you never thought was possible?

     

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    1. Jen @ Pretty Little Grub

      May 12, 2016 at 1:40 pm

      This is such a beautiful story, it made me tear up. Congratulations on finishing and with a wicked time. I love when friends or maybe even frenemies can inspire us.

      Reply
      • Chrissy Carroll

        May 14, 2016 at 1:24 pm

        Glad we could bring out the onions for ya in this post! 🙂

        Reply
    2. Carmy

      May 12, 2016 at 1:49 pm

      Love it! Congrats on finishing! 😀 8 years of inspirations is quite the friendship!

      Reply
      • Chrissy Carroll

        May 14, 2016 at 1:22 pm

        I know, right?! 🙂 So proud of Steph for taking this plunge and completing her half.

        Reply
    3. Diane

      May 12, 2016 at 7:32 pm

      What an amazing story. Thank you for sharing, ladies. Both are class acts!

      Reply
      • Chrissy Carroll

        May 14, 2016 at 1:22 pm

        Aw, thanks Diane!

        Reply
    4. Kristen

      May 13, 2016 at 1:55 am

      This is such an awesome story! It’s amazing that you both were able to move past all the stuff in college and become close friends. Congrats to both of you for being awesome athletes!

      Reply
      • Chrissy Carroll

        May 14, 2016 at 1:21 pm

        Thanks Kristen! 🙂

        Reply
    5. Morgan @ Wildly Fit

      May 13, 2016 at 8:38 am

      Oh this is just such a sweet story and thank you for sharing it <3 … Supporting and pushing each other are such wonderful parts of friendship aren't they 🙂

      Reply
      • Chrissy Carroll

        May 14, 2016 at 1:21 pm

        You’re totally right, it’s really gratifying to support and push our friends.

        Reply
    6. Lori

      May 16, 2016 at 5:52 pm

      This made me cry! I am not one to cry over much of anything but this was a great story with life lessons for all of us. Steph, congrats on doing your first half marathon….Chrissy talked me into my first one too and I am thankful for all the motivation and support from her. Chrissy, you’re so great! 🙂

      Reply
      • Chrissy Carroll

        May 29, 2016 at 12:47 pm

        Aw, you’re too sweet Lori! Glad I could help with the motivation. Also, we need to catch up ASAP girl!

        Reply
    7. Heather Hart

      December 6, 2019 at 8:47 am

      “That girl is Chrissy Carroll. ” PLOT TWIST! Not what I was expecting at all, haha! What a wonderful post! One of my very best friends in high school was a girl I met at a summer soccer camp freshman year from another school that I HATED. She was so annoying. I loathed being around her at first. But eventually we ended up inseparable. It’s funny how it works out that way sometimes <3

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      • Chrissy Carroll

        December 11, 2019 at 6:43 pm

        Haha – I know, Steph is a great writer right?! She really draws you in with that plot twist. 🙂 It’s so funny how you end up befriending people you never thought!

        Reply

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